The other night, as I sat scrolling frantically through Instagram on my phone, I thought I heard a voice. Scrap that. I did hear a voice. But between Facebook open on my laptop and the show-I-don’t-remember on TV, I couldn’t hear a thing.
Clearly I was busy.
I don’t know what shocked me out of my Insta-haze – maybe it was my boyfriend going off to bed. Or perhaps, every light being turned off. But there I was. Sitting in the dark. Living proof:
Since then, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the hours I waste online. I’ve dropped my ‘awakening’ into countless conversations, which have all led to very similar stories in return. Everyone can relate, because sadly, it’s our reality…
Whether it’s email addiction or extreme Facebook updating, we’re all suffering from the same techno-ill. Selective hearing, total distraction, delayed responses due to obsessive checking-in – but what of it? It’s how we make “conversation” these days.
Even when we do speak, we end up talking about the online versions of ourselves. Just the other day, friends of mine recalled overhearing a cringe-worthy first date. The girl had asked the guy if he had “googled” her. When he said no, the conversation turned to whether they had ever “googled” themselves (of course, she had). I mean, are we even for real anymore? Arguably not.
Well, I say bring back the good old days. The ones when we went out more, and spoke often, instead of sending texts and emails. We had a sense of freedom too, that seems limited these days. Just look at our parents – once upon a time, they took off without a trace, middle fingers to the world: a sense of freedom that many of us will never experience.
There are some glimmers of hope, like those digging out old Nokia’s and ditching their iPhone’s altogether (thanks Gem). Yep, people who are actually doing stuff in their spare time again. Actual human stuff. Imagine!
So, here’s my challenge to you: Put down your phone, turn off your computer, or back away from this screen – right now. Look up, look wide, and watch your world. Start a conversation. Give that sweet thing over there a kiss. Open a book. Make a moment. Go.
Because sometimes, life’s littlest and most precious moments are happening unseen, right before our eyes …
All we need to do – is remember to look.